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I received this email…

My friend slept with my husband and I found out. She said it was to prove that my husband is no good for me and we should divorce. I’m heartbroken. What should I do?
Shelly in AZ

Between You and Me, she is very correct in the statement that your husband is no good. What she failed to include is that she is no good as well. There is no feasible explanation that would make her sleeping with your husband sound like the right thing to do in order to prove a point. This is the age of technology. She could have easily recorded him in a compromising position without actually sleeping with him. She could have talked to him as a concerned friend. She could have given you a name to a good marriage counselor. So many steps could have been taken other than stripping down and having sex.

You stated that you found out. Not that she told you. Not that he told you. But you found out. That tells me that this has more than likely been an ongoing relationship and you are the last to know. It takes a different kind of desperation to pretend to be someone’s friend and behind her back carry on an affair with her husband.

She wanted your husband for herself and now she has had him. Point blank period. She wants you to get a divorce so that she can move right into your space. I’m sure if you think back you can see all sorts of red flags about how she talks about him or how she acts around him. Nobody just offers themselves up as a pawn in the sex game to prove a point. Nope, she wanted him.

Let’s not just fault the friend and I do use that term loosely. He is the one who really owes you loyalty. Not her. He is the one who took vows to protect your heart and be there for you. Forsaking all others. That is not how you show loyalty. That is how you tell a person you really don’t care at all. He is telling you and showing you just how selfish he really is.

Now I really hope that you get rid of her definitely. She is toxic and not good for you. I cannot speak for your marriage, but if it was me, they both could go to hell in a hand basket.

I wish you luck with how this situation turns out

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I received an email yesterday. This is what it said. Take note, I have chosen to change the names in order to keep privacy.

Dear Between You and Me

My sister and my best friend since childhood are dating. They have been together for about 5 years and have a 2 year old son. In the beginning I was dead set against them starting a relationship. That was for selfish reasons though. I didn’t want to be put in the middle if they had a disagreement or argument. After a while I embraced them being together and stayed clear when the occasional problem would come up. I don’t want to ramble so let me get to the point of this email. I was at the mall doing some shopping and I saw this guy and girl sitting together in the food court. They were very affectionate and the girl kept kissing the guy. The female’s back was to me but she looked familiar. The closer I got to them them more I realized who she was. I heard her laugh and if you know Meagan, you know who she is just by her distinctly high pitched giggle. A knot appeared in my throat as I walked up to the two. I greeted them and her eyes widened. She was caught. I introduced myself to her very close guy friend and he told me his name was Tony. I teased her by asking her did she have a new boyfriend. She was red in the face and said yea kinda. He was oblivious to the inner conversation that we were having with each other. I didn’t know what else to do so I kissed her on the cheek and told her to call me later. I shook my head as I walked away.
HELP ME, WHAT DO I DO? I am so close to Brandon, her boyfriend, but she is my sister. I can’t pick sides.

Well Mark, Between You and Me, your sister has stepped into a situation that she has to get herself through. I’m not sure if you are thinking of telling your friend but I would advise you not to. If you talk to anyone, talk to Meagan. Like you said, she is your sister so she would be more accessible mentally to hear what you have to say. See where her head is at. You really don’t know the full story. She and Brandon may be having problems. I’m not saying that her entertaining another man in this manner is acceptable but there may be a valid reason in her head to do so. You say that you steer clear when they have disagreements, so you really don’t know what’s going on within their relationship. Give your sister your brotherly advice and accept whatever she has to say..

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